Resources for Marriage
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The Commitments of Marriage:
A Statement of Ethical Intention (written by Silvia Purdie) The principle of unconditional love I commit to loving you unconditionally. I accept you as you are and will not pressure you to change. I am curious about who you will become and will not pressure you to stay the same. The principle of beneficence, doing good for the other I commit to your welfare and will act in your interests even when this means putting aside my own. I will serve you. I will support you in your way of dealing with things. The principle of fidelity, truth, faithfulness I commit to being honest with you and to being a safe person for you to be honest with. I will not keep secrets from you. I will tell you when I feel attracted to someone else. The principle of non-malevalence, ‘do no harm’ I commit to fighting fair. I commit to working as a team. The principle of autonomy, of growing up I commit to being responsible for my own needs. I do not expect you to be everything for me. I will encourage your individuality and talents. |
Material for weddings is in the 'God' section of my website: HERE
A Kiwi Wedding Blessing
May your hearts grow together like the branches of a kauri tree. May your love be deep and wide as the ocean, and your joy be as high as the mighty mountains. May you be at home with each other wherever you are, and forgive each other every day. May success unfold in your work like the tree fern opens to the sun, and kindness blossom in your home. May peace sing clear and sweet in your marriage, like a bellbird by a lake. God bless you and keep you always. Ma te Atua korua e manaaki. |
Other pages in this section include:
Expectations: managing your own expectations and needs and not just putting them onto your partner
Desire: keeping desire and intimacy alive, with material from Esther Perel
TED Talk: The secret of desire in long term relationships
Emotional Needs
Expectations: managing your own expectations and needs and not just putting them onto your partner
Desire: keeping desire and intimacy alive, with material from Esther Perel
TED Talk: The secret of desire in long term relationships
Emotional Needs
'Fighting Fair' rules for healthy conflict for couples
An excellent website by Nathan Cobb
Also a page on How to be a better listener
An excellent website by Nathan Cobb
Also a page on How to be a better listener